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Sacrifices in Motherhood
This is What She Needs to Hear Most on the Worst Days
Sometimes we do it because it feels good and other times only because it is the right thing, and if not us then who because they are our responsibility.
Sometimes the love and devotion and care flow from us easily and other times they are torn from us with a pain reminiscent of the labor that brought our little ones into this world.
Motherhood is an exercise in sacrifice even on the best days. Your money, time, appearance, comfort, sleep, sanity — all of it, gone.
On a good day you give it all up for those little people you created who make your heart full and your teeth tight. On a bad day, when they’re still taking long after you’ve got nothing left to give, you get to show off your ugly cry.
As a society supporting mothers of all ages who are raising children of all ages, we are good at telling them that the sacrifice is worthwhile, that the challenging moments are part of the process, that those moments won’t last forever, and that they just need to keep trying, keep going, and keep doing their best. What is implied in that message, that we may not realize we are saying, is that their suffering is irrelevant, that the feeling of losing their minds and wanting to scream is also merely part of the process, and…
